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From Clutch Magazine: Sadly, it seems the media rhetoric alleging a "single black woman" crisis is getting under our skin. Black love is under attack. And the most damaging part about it all is many of us are the very ones striking fierce blows at what we once dreamt about as little girls. No one ever said it would be easy, attaining the 'Cosby Show' with 'Good Times' hustle. The very crisis we feel unfolding before us is half hype, half unquantitative numbers. Ask any black woman, age 50 and over, and they will tell you that what some of are whining about ain't nothing new.
But when did we really stop believing in black men?
Why do our desires to try and a little 'Something New' mean we have to turn our backs on all that we once knew? Even through their very specific types of bullsh*t, black men are a part of us, whether we like it or not.
A damaging piece was written by a writer for Bossip's new sister site. "8 Reasons to Date a White Man" was posted Monday, and since then, the article has sparked debate, counterpieces and loads of comments. But we decided, instead of producing our own response, to pass the mic to our brotha, Shane80.
Here at CLUTCH, we're never giving up on black men.
1. Gay white men tend to be more forthcoming about their sexuality with family and friends. The down-low phenomenon is less prevalent, which preserves the battery usage on your gaydar and relieves the stress of dissecting every male relationship.
Shane: Let's stop branding black men as the sole proprietors of down-low behavior. This country as whole has problem with integrity and truth telling. Have we forgotten about Ted Haggard, Mark Foley, Larry Craig, Lance Bass and Roy Ashburn? I guess these men are above reproach. I guess it's not new millennium enough to ask the pertinent questions about the people we date. It is homophobic and shortsighted of the author to only say that down-low behavior is limited to gay relationships when heterosexual men and women engage in devious and hurtful secrecy in relationships. We can cite Bill Clinton, Mark Spector here.
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