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I have a theory that I've wondered would hold up to empirical scrutiny. My theory is that there are quite a few women who might be willing to settle for part of a good man rather than having 100% of a mediocre man. For example, men like Tiger Woods might have more girlfriends than most of us can count, and some would wonder if any of those women expect him to be committed to just one person. Not to say that I condone one lifestyle over another, but we all know how things go down in the real world.
Much of this theory came into play with the recent suicide attempt by the singer Fantasia, where her distress was linked to her relationship with a married man. Some might define these relationships as unholy unions between two people condemned to hell. Others might perceive them as being a realistic alternative to the grind and toil of stressful marriages. In fact, most of us know of at least one woman who only dates married men. Again, I am not here to judge, but to be realistic.
To help me sort through the issue, I brought together a group of very interesting panelists to talk about the topic: S. Tia Brown, Dr. James Wadley, China Okasi, and George James. Dr. Wadley wrote a book with a very interesting title, "Would You Marry You?" S. Tia Brown is a relationship advisor with Essence and AOL BV. China Okasi is the editor of Madame Noire, a leading publication for women of color. George James is a Family Therapist at The Council for Relationships and the CEO of George Talks, LLC. The video is above, enjoy!
Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition and a Scholarship in Action Resident of the Institute for Black Public Policy. To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.