Which Internet Dating Site Should I Pick?

Filed under: Dating, Relationships, Luv Coach, Marriage

Match, Chemistry, Zoosk, Plenty of Fish, Ebony Friends, Date Hookup, Ok cupid, Perfect Match, Lava Life, Afro Introduction, JDate, Friend Finder, Christian Mingle, Interracial Singles, Dream Matches, Prime Singles, Veggie Date, East Meet West. If you're searching for love on the internet and you enter the term 'dating site' into your web browser, you're doomed to be glued to your chair until your brain melts and your ass feels like lead. The multitude of dating companies promising to end your quest for love, have become the strip malls of the information highway, churning out dates like fast food. "Let me cruise on down to soul singles for a #3 - a tall, sexy, handsome man with a PhD, the ability to express his feelings, and the gumption to only have eyes for me." Sound delicious?

With the copious choices available to find love, the plethora of options can be overwhelming as you surf millions of faces. Bingeing on profiles may induce numbness, pickiness, the 'what if there is someone better?' syndrome, and don't forget that the amount of time spent on your computer will make your friends question if you need a porn intervention. With so many choices it's not surprising people get stuck in singles-ville, hopping from one site to the next, becoming more obsessed with the hunt than with actually finding a mate.

I have met my fair share of singles whose disillusionment with online dating caused them to abandon the search all together, believing that it's become a meat market for hook ups. I have coached many singles who came in search of my services because their internet dates revealed people who should have been carted off to the cuckoos nest. All these run ins with dating services has painted a pretty clear picture of the ones that work, and the ones that should be left at the side of the curb.
If you've become more concerned with avoiding love land mines, and wince every time someone winks at you, then it's time to unplug for a moment and regroup. Your desire to find love may have developed into neediness, and once you fall into that trap you've lost yourself and won't be able to remember what you came looking for. Take a breather, center yourself, and then ask the tough question, "What do I want?" "Do I want to be in a committed relationship with a like minded individual who is ready to do the work to make their love successful?" If your answer is yes, then head over to E-harmony.

When it comes to dating sites, it requires a little elbow grease, so right there you weed out the people who aren't serious or aren't willing to put the work in to find love. E-harmony's compatibility matching system picks people that are right for you, which means you will be loved for exactly who you are. 5% of all weddings in the U.S. are from E-harmony, and a million people are in committed relationships thanks to E-harmony. The stats don't lie, and in the realm of spreading the love, they're putting cupid out of business. So if you're a single looking for a total E-clipse of the heart, set your browser to E-harmony and let the pros charter your course to love!


Rebecca Brody is a relationship coach in New York City. Have a relationship question? Ask Brody@TheLuvCoach.com or go to www.TheLuvCoach.com. Ready to meet that special person? Come join Coach Brody for an evening of Improv Speed Dating- www.Improvdates.com

 

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