It has recently been reported in MediaTake Out.com that a few days before the infamous incident where Chris Brown opened a can of whup-a*s on Rihanna in his car, that she had sent him an email in which she basically told him off and accused him of being a "whack" boyfriend and a horrible person, after he had failed to give her a follow-up call.
MTO states that this and other emails shows that Rihanna verbally abused Chris and she sounds "stalkerish and crazy."
They go on to say that though they are not condoning the beating she received at Chris Brown's hands, they do believe that she has not and should take some responsibility for being in an abusive relationship with Chris. From the tone of some of the comments that have been submitted online in response to this story, and general comments that were made shortly after the incident/beating, there are many folks, surprisingly some being young women, who believe that Rihanna's jealous or aggressive behaviors towards Chris were the cause of her resultant savage beating.
They go on to say that though they are not condoning the beating she received at Chris Brown's hands, they do believe that she has not and should take some responsibility for being in an abusive relationship with Chris. From the tone of some of the comments that have been submitted online in response to this story, and general comments that were made shortly after the incident/beating, there are many folks, surprisingly some being young women, who believe that Rihanna's jealous or aggressive behaviors towards Chris were the cause of her resultant savage beating.
This is not surprising in light of the fact that many abusers feel that their victims intentionally "pushed their buttons," and provoked a physical attack. What's even stranger is that the victims often are bamboozled by the abuser into thinking they are at fault for getting beat.
Though I do not endorse MTO's opinion that Rihanna is crazy or a stalker, I do agree that she should take responsibility for having been in an abusive relationship. It is unclear however as to whether they are intimating the "responsibility" she needs to take is for pushing Chris' buttons. If that is the case, and by no means am I saying that is what MTO is intending, this would clearly be another case of victimizing the victim, as many have done, and as I suspect many may interpret, especially when she is called crazy and a stalker. Heck, how is a guy to deal with a girl like this but protect himself by any means necessary, even violence?!
I truly believe that if Rihanna and the multitude of women and men who are victims of domestic violence do not take "responsibility" and get therapy to understand the choices they make in abusive mates are often based on growing up in abusive families and or having poor self esteem , then they are often doomed to stay in that abusive relationship, or get into other abusive relationships in the future. The abusers also need therapy so they can understand that just like Chris, the abuse they suffered as children or witnessed in their own families causes them to act out their emotional trauma and anger against their mates.
Domestic violence is a huge problem and much more prevalent in African American and Latino communities, versus the white community. This cycle of violence will only continue and be perpetrated in higher numbers if we get into the mindset of "blaming or victimizing the victim."
I truly believe that if Rihanna and the multitude of women and men who are victims of domestic violence do not take "responsibility" and get therapy to understand the choices they make in abusive mates are often based on growing up in abusive families and or having poor self esteem , then they are often doomed to stay in that abusive relationship, or get into other abusive relationships in the future. The abusers also need therapy so they can understand that just like Chris, the abuse they suffered as children or witnessed in their own families causes them to act out their emotional trauma and anger against their mates.
Domestic violence is a huge problem and much more prevalent in African American and Latino communities, versus the white community. This cycle of violence will only continue and be perpetrated in higher numbers if we get into the mindset of "blaming or victimizing the victim."